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24th December 2015 - Soooo much done in the last month and now it's Christmas Eve and I've got presents to wrap and epic baths to enjoy before I snuggle down and have the perfect Christmas with Spider at my sister's...I will of course be dressed to the nines because my nephews are convinced I'm a REAL fairy princess...come to that, I think my boyfriend probably is too!

 

Just running the website updates and newsletter for the Xmas and New Year Special Offer before I make a start on the presents I haven't yet wrapped :) (it's no fun if you don't leave something to the last minute eh?).

 

So, superfast blog update.  All attunements, spells, rituals and initiation intensives will proceed as scheduled over the holiday period (I tend to organise my life and personal commitment around them...and when you do something you love for a living, you can hardly call it work!).

 

Also have nutroast to finish...first vegan Christmas dinner.  Fabulous! XX

 

20th November 2015 - Oh dear!  I have seriously neglected this blog! It's been over a month since my last post.  I will endeavour to copy my blogs from Tumblr/Wordpress/Blogger over more, but at the moment this blog's updates are only done when I'm in the office and when I'm busy with a lot of templework (like with the additional Killing Moon Cycles offered over Samhain, and the later Nataraj Reversal Intensive), I end up working a lot from my tablet the office sort of gets neglected as I only go in to update student records, process the certificates and update the main website with any special offers etc. 

 

In fact, this month I'm pretty much out of my office and doing my admin on a laptop wherever I happen to because Elvis is sorting the office out, and redecorating the living room.  It's going to be fab.  I've inherited my Grandfather's study chair...it's ancient and looks like a throne. He was writer and teacher too and so it's always been considered, that kind of 'mantle' has passed to me. Some of his earliest writing was a series of books about what we'd now call 'life coaching' - but was very much ahead of his time!  At some stage, I'm hoping to be able to pass his course on through Mayastar but I've got quite a bit on really so it's one of those projects I'll be doing later.  At the moment, sorting out the office to my liking is Elvis's priority!  So I'm going for a dark blue ceiling and fuschia walls; with a lot of blue crystal organza hangings and lots of blue led fairy lights.  After the office is done, the living room will be done...which I think will be done in a darker pink and purple/berry - with pink organza and pink fairy lights.  The dance studio's also getting fairy lights (v pretty low energy alternative to conventional lighting...no way I'd be happy with something as conventional as a ceiling light! - I've got a reputation as a fairy princess to hold up!).

 

The hall, I want to be done in either the dark pink or purple...I haven't decided. But I have decided that the bathroom (which is last on the list of priorities) will be done in greens...all greens and very 'foresty' feeling. And having a boyfriend that's skilled in all kinds of repairs, decorating, plumbing, tiling and...well...pretty much he can do anything! - well, it's a bonus to say the least.  I'm actually considering whether I want to have the hall and bathroom floors tiled.  He's already sorted out my garden and next year operation Gypsy Wagon to replace the shed will be underway!  Yay! 

 

I guess that's really all the news at the moment.  Kind of busy with a lot more templework during this season but not so much that I don't see Elvis every evening after he finishes work and until he goes to bed...we worked it out the other day because we're both self employed and so both have some flexibility in the hours we work, we get to spend about 6 hours together every day on average...he lives so nearby that it works out really well. He's got some big stuff coming up with his business next year...new contracts and stuff.  So that's all good. 

 

My work is going very well too...I was looking the other day at the number of students and number of courses I've taught...it's been 11 years since Mayastar was established and it's amazing to see how it's grown over that time.  The fact I was using social media for some creative projects and set up a page for Mayastar in 2009. It wasn't used very much at all.  But increasingly from 2011.  And since that time the following on Facebook exploded - particularly in the last 18 months.  And the same applies to my other social media accounts.  I didn't realise for a long time just how many people find Mayastar, Maya Magickal and Maya Runes through social networks.  I think because people use tablets and smartphones more and more, they are more open to distance learning courses that they can complete on a device - they don't need a printer or a computer to be able to study with Mayastar!  And they can follow articles and updates through Tumblr, G+, Instagram, WordPress, Blogger, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn as well as by subscribing to the newsletter.

 

It also means that my student support and the time taken to respond to questions, process orders and so on, is really fast because I can respond to customers immediately and work a great deal from my mobile or tablet.  It's quite amazing to look back and consider how the service I'm able to provide has developed and improved (and continues to), since Mayastar was established in 2004. Gives me the warm fuzzies to be doing what I love and being able to provide tuition, inspiration and guidance to others as I do it.  It's like a win-win situation when your life is aligned with your heart and soul!

 

Goodness...sounding more and more like the hippie I am every minute aren't I??! 

 

Better do a little work as my man'll coming over later to have something to eat and I wanna squeeze a bubble bath in before he gets back...and find out if he had any luck finding the particular paint I wanted too.

 

Love to all...and if you're following this blog still and it seems a little quiet, please to join me on other social networks (links on the right) to stay in the loop! XXX

 

 

 

13th October 2015 - Had a busy week in all the best ways this week. Still running my test of cruelty free products for 'Stoptober'...which threw up some interesting points about my motivation...you can find the blog on www.wordpress.annalouisemay.net - I'd love to hear your comments and experiences, namely about any dietary changes you have made and what motivated them.  Because finding out some questionable products with petrol derivatives in them are 'cruelty free' and not tested on animals, I realised, I had made the assumption that cruelty free would be more natural.  But it made me look at how my eating habits had changed and why and when over the last 27 years.  People think 'going vegan' is some kind of radical step, but actually for me it was a very gradual process and I can remember the first time (age 15, 27 years ago), I considered I had an ethical issue with the consumption of meat.  I wasn't well informed on these things, but that was the first time I made changes.  And gradually over time, I've made more and more small changes until my diet was essentially vegan.  I'm sure mine's not the usual way these things happen...so I'm very interested to know what other's experiences have been and how they have changed their eating habits over the years.

 

So, today I'm just doing a little admin at the moment before I begin my temple work.  I've scheduled in my first vegan Starbucks lunch date with my sister & step mother Thursday; and arranged to see my brother for a Supernatural fest this weekend too. 

 

I'll begin some of the Cruelty Free reviews soon.  I'm surprised by the results so far - mostly positive!  Surprisingly positive in fact.  So I'm keeping with the programme!

 

6th October 2015

 

A message to humanity | The Soul of Man Has Been Given Wings


 



 

From “The Great Dictator”

“I’m sorry, but I don’t want to be an emperor. That’s not my business. I don’t want to rule or conquer anyone. I should like to help everyone if possible; Jew, Gentile, black man, white. We all want to help one another. Human beings are like that. We want to live by each other’s happiness, not by each other’s misery. We don’t want to hate and despise one another. In this world there is room for everyone, and the good earth is rich and can provide for everyone. The way of life can be free and beautiful, but we have lost the way. Greed has poisoned men’s souls, has barricaded the world with hate, has goose-stepped us into misery and bloodshed. We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in. Machinery that gives abundance has left us in want. Our knowledge has made us cynical; our cleverness, hard and unkind. We think too much and feel too little. More than machinery, we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness. Without these qualities, life will be violent and all will be lost. The airplane and the radio have brought us closer together. The very nature of these inventions cries out for the goodness in men; cries out for universal brotherhood; for the unity of us all. Even now my voice is reaching millions throughout the world, millions of despairing men, women, and little children, victims of a system that makes men torture and imprison innocent people. To those who can hear me, I say, do not despair. The misery that is now upon us is but the passing of greed, the bitterness of men who fear the way of human progress. The hate of men will pass, and dictators die, and the power they took from the people will return to the people. And so long as men die, liberty will never perish. Soldiers! Don’t give yourselves to brutes, men who despise you, enslave you; who regiment your lives, tell you what to do, what to think and what to feel! Who drill you, diet you, treat you like cattle, use you as cannon fodder. Don’t give yourselves to these unnatural men – machine men with machine minds and machine hearts! You are not machines, you are not cattle, you are men! You have the love of humanity in your hearts! You don’t hate! Only the unloved hate; the unloved and the unnatural. Soldiers! Don’t fight for slavery! Fight for liberty! In the seventeenth chapter of St. Luke, it is written that the kingdom of God is within man, not one man nor a group of men, but in all men! In you! You, the people, have the power, the power to create machines, the power to create happiness! You, the people, have the power to make this life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure. Then in the name of democracy, let us use that power. Let us all unite. Let us fight for a new world, a decent world that will give men a chance to work, that will give youth a future and old age a security. By the promise of these things, brutes have risen to power. But they lie! They do not fulfill that promise. They never will! Dictators free themselves but they enslave the people. Now let us fight to fulfill that promise. Let us fight to free the world! To do away with national barriers! To do away with greed, with hate and intolerance! Let us fight for a world of reason, a world where science and progress will lead to all men’s happiness. Soldiers, in the name of democracy, let us all unite! Hannah, can you hear me? Wherever you are, look up Hannah! The clouds are lifting! The sun is breaking through! We are coming out of the darkness into the light! We are coming into a new world; a kindlier world, where men will rise above their hate, their greed, and brutality. Look up, Hannah! The soul of man has been given wings and at last he is beginning to fly. He is flying into the rainbow! Into the light of hope, into the future! The glorious future, that belongs to you, to me and to all of us. Look up, Hannah. Look up!”

 

6th October 2015 - Energy Attunement Courses | Recommendations, Options, Healing & Spiritual Development | By ALM (Maya)

 

I often receive emails from beginners, or spiritual/natural healers that haven't used Energy Healing (aka Vibrational Medicine) before, asking for advice on which courses to take...and there are many options for courses depending on what areas you are drawn to or would like to work on! This blog aims to give you some ideas.

Some students are looking to work in particular areas such healing or development through energies associated as, Earth Energies, Shamanism, Angels, Reiki, Avalonian, Lemurian, Pleiadian, Celestial, Deities.

And all students have different goals...goals that may become clearer to them or change as they work. So question yourself on your goals; do you want to focus on developing particular skills like clairvoyance? Psychic/Intuition? Working with magick? Ascension/Enlightenment? Healing others? Healing yourself? Developing a daily meditation routine? As all these may make a difference on which courses you feel drawn to and what would be a good progression for you.

However, if you are new to attunement based energy work, regardless of the ultimate goal, I believe establishing a firm and balanced base in the techniques and energy applications is the best thing you can do. It builds your confidence along with your experience and will also help you to establish how you would like to proceed. Many energy healers use a combination of techniques and energies as they develop their own unique style and that's something that will come with time.

I think Traditional Usui Reiki's structured form really lends itself to assisting the development of energy sensitivity and you abilities to channel and (very importantly) ground higher frequency energies. The structured format means it works really well with combination energy treatments for both the student/practitioner/patient. The structure provides a kind of security as you are first learning too. It's unequivocally the most comprehensive option. (You can read more about Usui Reiki at www.mayastar.net/reikicourses.htm)

So even if ultimately you want to pursue a path based on Self Realisation through Meditation and Self Healing techniques - or develop clairvoyant abilities, I would recommend that you begin with a package that includes a variety of systems with different application methods so you can experiment - gain experience as you gain knowledge and develop power too. And create a strong basis and confidence in Energy Work before you focus on directions.

My personal top 6 for a beginner's personalised package (which incurs a 25% discount) would be:

Traditional Usui Reiki
Kundalini Reiki
Ethereal Crystals
Crystal Rose
Violet Flame Attunement
Orb of Life

A variety of energies that will encourage you to experiment! The usual fee would be £400 but this would be reduced to £300 as a personalised package.

(Note: To order this or any other personalised package and benefit from the relevant discounts, please email me with your order).

If you were looking to begin with a single course, my recommendation would be Traditional Usui Reiki.

Additionally, the Accredited Mayastar Energy Anatomy Diploma Course is a valuable addition to any package as it teaches you more about the basic structure of the energy body and associations with each. It also includes powerful visualisation meditations that effectively allow you to attune yourself to each aspect of the energy body as you work through the assignments.

It's worth considering before you begin what feels right for you though. Read some or the information articles, testimonials and student experiences on the website.

If you email me mayastar.net@gmail.com I can send you a copy of the information manuals and syllabus that may give you more of an idea.

Also, courses that will be added to the syllabus later this year are being made available on the current special offer and these may also be of interest to some (See www.mayastar.net/special.htm ).



 

2nd October 2015 - Having the most fantastic week. Lots of templework and personalised options for people.  And it's the perfect time of year for cleansing spells, exorisms, reversals and so on - with the solar and lunar influences currently in alignment I have many MM clients taking intensives for clearing negative energy/influences and also protection workings.

 

Also this week - the number of people follow ALM/Mayastar related Social Networks has doubled in the last 18 months.  That seems amazing!  10, 000 of them follow Mayastar's FB page www.facebook.mayastar.net  It's phenomenal - and I'm really pleased to be able to see how Mayastar has developed and grown since I applied all my time to it.  It's very rewarding to know that you're working for yourself; doing something you feel passionate about; feel you're making a positive contribution to the lives of others...sometimes in a tiny way...sometimes in a big way.  And that often, the positive difference you make is reflected in the lives and experiences of the people around the people you work with.  Really wonderful.

 

Elvis is out tonight so I've caught up on my admin, have some templework to do and then plan some personal meditation work before I settle down for a good read and a bubble bath.

 

I don't usually offer Maya Magickal rituals on the 24 Hour Gift options, but I think I will tonight because the planetary influences are so optimal! X

 

 

27th September 2015 - BLOG SPECIAL | LIGHTWORKERS

 

Lightworkers

One of the most common questions I receive from new and prospective students, is how do they become a Lightworker? Often you may feel that you have a spiritual mission to fulfil and are unsure where to begin or exactly how to go about it. Sometimes there is even some conflict within you as to whether it’s something you have time for or would be able to do at all.

There is a lot of information out there that can support you if you are looking for it. However, even with all that information, the journey is one that is essentially an internal one that decide to take you take. Later you will find you naturally find ways of expressing this internal change in other ways, but the journey begins usually with a feeling…and then with a decision.

A Lightworker is someone who has a ‘calling’ to serve humanity in some way. Some believe true Lightworkers are enlightened or spiritually advanced beings that have chosen their current incarnation in order that they may assist in some way, the spiritual evolution of humanity as a whole. My own experience leads me to consider that this calling is within all of us – perhaps louder for some than others – and perhaps some trust that calling more than others. But I feel it is within every person to assist humanity in achieving our collective potential in however big or small a way they can, by following that calling.

There are no end of ways you might go about this. And many techniques you may work with to assist you in developing the skills and awareness that will help you fulfil your goals. Energy Healing and meditation are those that I teach (backed up by my experience, and personal studies). I do also provide ritual empowerments and initiation options. And I do quite a lot of writing! These are the areas I am best skilled in. But not all Lightworkers teach. Some may become healers, writers, counsellors, motivational speakers, artists or psychics. And others may develop their skills to assist friends and family – perhaps providing healing or inspiring others by example.

The real fact about Lightworkers is that it’s something we all aspire to on some level whether we choose to become proactive in that aspiration or not. There is no restriction to the way you express your ‘vocation’ as a Lightworker. There are no restrictions based on philosophies, religions, qualifications, practices, personal skills and talents.

I have always aimed through my work to inspire and encourage people in achieving their spiritual potential; and to make that journey as accessible as possible while encouraging people in such a way that I consider, what I teach is almost secondary to what I pass on to those I work with. My focus is always on empowerment of the individual. So above and beyond any details, I consider that fundamental to Lightwork is the very idea that every individual has a part to play; the concept that we are all part of something bigger and united by certain spiritual aspects. We don’t need to know what that ‘something bigger’ is or what part we are playing in the grander scheme of things to begin the journey. We just need an open mind, and the confidence to take the first step.


Try not to compare yourself to others or to discourage yourself because you think your contribution won’t count. It will. It always does! All Lightworkers are different. You won’t need to suddenly go vegan, meditate for an hour a day or become a hippie to validate you ‘spiritual credibility’!

On some level you already possess the ‘wholeness’ of your potential. What we think of as spiritual growth that allows us to evolve as Lightworkers, is actually the process of letting go of the restrictive and divisive beliefs we may have held. Letting go of habits or addictions (which may be patterns of behaviour rather than addictions to substances), that get in the way of our being truly free to be ourselves. It’s a process of remembering who you are and becoming who you are meant to be.

Lightworkers have one intention that unites them; their conscious decision to respond to that inner calling; to express their truth (in all aspects of their life) in accordance with “The Power That Moves the Universe”. Some may call this ‘Divine Intelligence’, 'Universal Light', ‘God’ or ‘Nature’. The name is not important, but our relationship to that common Source is what defines us as Lightworkers.

In her book, The Lightworker’s Way, Dr Doreen Virtue details her own spiritual journey. She explains the awakening her healing and clairvoyance as well as her understanding of them. She writes, “This is a book about my own journey of remembering my identity and abilities as a Lightworker. Its purpose is to help you recall your own divine mission and your natural spiritual skills.”


If you feel moved to make a difference…even if you’re not sure how you’ll do it, whether you can do it, where to begin or whether you’re good enough…you are already on the path to remembering yourself & realising your potential as Lightworker.

XXX ALM (Maya)


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25th September 2015 - Just running the website updates and about to settle down to get some of my admin up to date before my templework this evening.

 

The current Gift Offer course (www.mayastar.net/gift.htm) is the Magickal Lightworker Programme; it's one of my favourite systems to teach as it includes a series of 6 very intense energy attunements that assist you to work with the Universal Laws through those channels that resonate most strongly with you - such as angels, fairies or goddess energies.  It's a wonderful system of empowerment for spiritual growth and to assist you in manifesting, psychic development and self-realisation.

 

I've had a hectic month in many ways but it's been a very positive time for me...personally and professionally.  And I've had requests for a number of unique magickal workings and intensives too - which is something I always enjoy.  Personalised ritual intensives for spiritual development/initiation are always so rewarding and keep me on my toes when it comes to ensuring I continue to develop and my power evolves along with the more 'intellectual' side of magickal work. 

 

Work on the new website continues...and I will be adding some new courses to the syllabus later this year.  So if you want to stay informed of developments, don't forget to join the mailing list!  Please email me at mayastar.net@gmail.com to request the current newsletter and a copy of the complimentary information manuals,  syllabus and student guide XX

 

19th September 2015 - It's rare that I have a Saturday night with spare hours! Saturdays are ruled by the planet Saturn and the most popular spells I provide tend to be worked on Fridays and Saturdays predominantly.  So I'm having an easy night...will catch up on my paper work and possibly watch the Cinderella DVD I had delivered some weeks back...waiting for just the right moment to indulge in a totally girlie, girlie night in!

 

My birthday was sooooo fabulous.  Thanks to all those on my social networks for your kind wishes about my dad's passing, and sooooo many happy birthdays I'm sorry I didn't have time to respond to everyone individually! But your kind thoughts are received with gratitude XXX 

 

Speaking of social networks, I didn't really embrace the social media side of my 'online presence' until I realised that my personal online presence and hobbies/interests that aren't actually related to Mayastar or Maya Magickal, were often of interest to my students. I suppose getting to know me a bit...seeing what I blog about...what music I listen to...what I'm doing when I'm not working and that kind of thing, helps my students and clients to get an idea of me as a person and to understand my work with a more comprehensive context.  I think that's turned out to be a good thing.  My work feels vocational to me.  Obviously I have to be paid for it because I have to have somewhere to live and something to eat if I'm going to be able to teach anyone anything at all!  But I absolutely love my work.  I love the people I work with and I consider my relationship with my students and clients a mutually beneficial one. 

 

It's been 11 years since I started out with Mayastar and over that time I've worked with a variety of people, all over the world and in different ways.  About 2000 students in all!  And ignoring all the ritual work (including some personalised initiation intensives tailored for Maya Magickal clients that were looking to further their development magickally), those students have, to date completed 5400 courses between them.  Amazing!  And I'm so happy with the way things have developed over that time too.  With new options...new courses...new ritual empowerments and so on.  Mayastar has evolved with its students and I've evolved alongside them too.  So I really do feel deeply privileged to be able to do the work I do.

 

And a massive THANK YOU to those who follow Mayastar...currently across all of my social networks I have over 24000 people following my work and creative pursuits!  I truly appreciate the support.

 

 

 

 

 

 

14th September 2015 (Yay! It's my birthday!) - Sorry for the radio silence!  I've taken a few days off -I'm very lucky my work allows flexibility - normal scheduling has been resumed and all administration stuff is up to date...so things are kind of back to normal...and it's my birthday!  So I'll be getting to bed early in moment, so that my mum and sister can take me to lunch tomorrow at a reasonable hour!...

 

I'm sad to say, my dad passed away earlier this month.  The chemo and radiotherapy did slow the tumour's development to an extent but unfortunately, it was growing so quickly that after he finished the treatment, he was having symptoms that could have either been from the chemo or from the tumour.  And by the time the scan result came back, we already knew what the situation was.  But it had continued to develop.  He did have a wonderful death (if such a thing is possible); we were all with him throughout.  And ultimately he got sleepier and sleepier, went into a coma and then died peacefully.  As he was making the transition we all had the opportunity to spend time with him - talking, praying, singing and telling him what we were doing and stuff. His consciousness came and went more and more towards the end but they were very precious times.  If it's possible to conceive, he did have a beautiful death.  At home, with his family and 'naturally' with just a bit of morphine as he had a headache towards the end.  Though I think it was from dehydration (which is usually a natural part of someone 'fading out' - they naturally lose their appetite and thirst as the end is coming close so they can have some cramps and things from that; morphine takes care of it and ensures they're comfortable - though possibly a bit high!).  We had discussed the options as a family and we all agreed 'home hospice' was something we would not only be able to cope with but would consider the best option and that we would want to be there taking care of dad to the end.

 

I have to say, even with a terminal cancer, you actually have no idea of when the person will die or exactly what the mechanism of death will be.  You know it will kill them but you don't know how or when.  Which isn't unlike life for the rest of us...we all know we will die but we don't know when or how!  Somehow, it's not something people talk about or consider much.  You have to deal with it if someone you are close to is dying - are you going to 'man up' and face their mortality and your own by taking the journey with them?  I think with the support of friends and family, and the person who is dying of course, the experience can be something truly sacred.  I'm so pleased things went the way they did. It happened more quickly than we had expected...but dad wasn't incapacitated until perhaps a week or so before he died.  He was gradually getting weaker - but I'm glad there wasn't a situation like if he'd had a massive seizure and had to be put into hospital and then into a hospice etc.

 

So it's a sad...but in a way, we're all kind of on a high and celebrating his life and also the journey we took with him through the diagnosis, treatment and finally his death. I love him so much.  I can't wait to see him again!  I think the first thing my dad will say when I meet him again is, "you were singing 'Substitute' out of key" - I was singing along to his music and we both love The Who! 

 

My sister and I got matching tattoos - in the style that dad had wanted one (but hadn't been allowed due to chemo!), so my sister had put the design on T shirts for everyone.  And a few days after he died, me and my sister went to have matching swallow tattoos.  Because, one swallow doesn't make a summer, but there's more than one of us!  And it's been a wonderful year in all kinds of unexpected ways.

 

So...that's kind of the main update. It's been an intense time and there's been a lot of laughter and a lot of tears.  And we've kind of adopted as a curiously relevant 'anthem' of the year, the song I was learning on the harp - "Tonight You Belong to Me" (Patience & Prudence) - I'll put a YouTube link below. 

 

"I know you belong to somebody new

But tonight, you belong to me

Although, we're apart

You're a part of my heart

And tonight, you belong to me

Way down by the stream

How sweet it will seem

Once more just to dream in the moonlight

My honey, I know with the dawn

That you will be gone

But tonight you belong to me"

 

 

 

 

Me with my autoharp; this was my birthday present from my dad - he gave it to me early because I was so impatient!  I spent the summer hanging out with him and practising it each day after some dancing in the garden...fun times and fabulous memories XX

 

 

27th August 2015 - A Having a heavenly day.  Got up early and did a bit of admin.  Then got a text from my honey and he came round to have breakfast with me (now he's cutting the grass while I get up!). 

 

I've just sent out a newsletter with and exclusive offer for Killing Moon 30 Day Ritual Intensives (exclusive to newsletter subscribers for the next 7 days because I have to limit the number of places available due to the nature of the daily working - it's flexible for me to perform but if I'm taking additional clients it does require scheduling!).

 

Got a lush vegan stew waiting for me and Elvis for later tonight too.  Slow cookers are soooooo genius.

 

Dad's currently knackered post the intensive chemo still but luckily my nocturnal habits mean I'm always available for company or any assistance while others are sleeping and my work schedule is flexible enough that quite a bit of the admin stuff, I can do while I'm round there.  And dad's always interested to know what kind of spells I'm working on too!  It's something we've being using along with Reiki and Violet Flame to assist him too.  It's a question many people wonder about - is it appropriate to give energy healing to the terminally ill?  Yes, it is - you can assist in relieving symptoms and relaxation.  Healing takes place on all levels and it's a wonderful way to support someone during what is a challenging but natural process.  So if you find yourself in a similar situation, I recommend talking it over with the 'patient' because after the initial shock is gone, those with terminal illness often feel a bit alienated if they can't talk about things - and sometimes people avoid talking about it because they think they can't do anything to help.  You can always do something to help! 

 

Anyway, better shake my tail feathers.  Want to have a bath, get up, do a session in the temple and my meditation, then me and Elvis will go round to hang with dad for a bit.

 

I'll be available on my mobile email/tablet so if anyone has questions about any of the current offers, please don't hesitate to drop me a line at mayastar.net@gmail.com XXXX

 

24th August 2015 - A quick update as I'm getting some admin work up to date at the moment and my man'll be round in a bit.  Reckon we'll end up watching anime as we're hooked on Angelbeats at the moment.  We'll be enjoying the vegan chickpea, green lentil, mushroom (plus leek, onion, broccoli, asparagus, celery and carrot) stew that's been slow cooking all day, with some brown rice (which is cooking itself right now).  I don't know how I ever got by without a rice cooker now I have one.

 

Nothing scheduled for ritual work tonight but will play it by ear when it comes to any temple work.

 

Nothing much else to report. It's raining. I'm addicted to Angel by Thierry Mugler...oh...had a lovely bonfire round dad's the other day.  Me and Elvis (everyone calls him Elvis except me!), plus some other neighbours, dad and Jet...very laid back.  Very much of a giggle.  Then we watched Gatsby together and had a romantic night listening to tons of Connie Francis and Motown. 

 

Dad's still up and down in his recovery from the chemo - the knackeredness gradually got worse after the chemo ended, and now it's very gradually getting better.  His mobility is fine.  His symptoms from the actual tumour are all reduced.  So once his healthy cells have built up a bit we'll have a better idea of the prognosis and he'll have a better idea of how he wants to proceed.

 

I think that's about the extent of it...tune of the day has to be "Tonight You Belong to Me" by Patience & Prudence...and I'm learning it on the autoharp and it's just a fantastic song!  Love love love it! XX

 

Better get on or I'll end up running late and will never do! X

 

20th August 2015 - A fabulous day to be me.  I've just done the newsletter and special offers...and I've updated the website.  It's been a busy day as my hours were all messed up due to a routine doctor's appointment in the morning.  But making the most of the disruption, my stepmother and I went into town to...well...go to town I guess :)

 

Fabulous haul!  Started off with a 5 shot caramel macchiato from Starbucks to give me the kind of super powers it needs for a girl to really make the most of a shopping mall!  I couldn't decide on which perfume I wanted the most so I chose both Angel & Alien by Thierry Mugler (I always wear perfume!).  Also got some supreme shoes that are just high enough (like my usual boots) to keep my long length Victorian skirts off the floor (as long as my petticoat has a suitable sweep - today I chose an aubergine broderie skirt over a chocolate brown tiered satin petti). Had to hunt down just the right fuschia lipstick (not too glossy but not too pigmented - so I can wear it over stain just to keep a hint of colour without actually doing my makeup!).  YSL came through - they always do!

 

I never wear make up except for photoshoots.  But in order that I always look fabulous when I roll out of bed, I make a habit of never brushing my curly hair but sleeping on a silk pillow, and clipping back my fringe.  If I'm out, I wear La Mer Serum as a moisturiser and a dusting of light reflecting La Mer if I have time.  I use Posie Tint (by Benefit) on my cheeks and around the edges of my face for a hint of pink. I use a Revlon Just Bitten fuschia pencil...which I apply and then immediately wipe off because it gives the most perfect fuschia pink stain.  Then I will use Dior Addict in a sheer pink over it. But it's a little too sheer.  So I was looking for something with a bit more pigment so that I could apply it like a lip balm (not carefully), and blot it, to refresh the fuschia.  And the Rouge Volupte (31) from YSL is absolutely perfect!

 

Also acquired the cutest pink boho style bag from Warehouse - just the right size for keeping my mobile, makeup, tissues, mints and purse in so I don't have to virtually empty the contents of my usual bag in order to find stuff! LOL

 

My other tip for those who want to do the no makeup thing without looking ill - keep your teeth white and clean - keep you skin tone even by not going out in the sun and using a good quality moisturiser and serum (I favour a hyalauronic acid serum, and La Mer's Regenerating Serum during the day; and hyalauronic acid serum with original LA Mer Moisturiser before sleep - I put it on and wait about 20 mins or so and then use the Intensive Eye Balm too - all fantastic.  The body cream is also fantastic!) - ALWAYS wear your sunglasses (I am photosensitive so it's something I do habitually but it's definitely good for your face) - eat well (don't eat out too much) - avoid alcohol and smoking...just to keep your skin as healthy as possible. Another important thing is, to be pale but not washed out, consider using Posie Tint spread v lightly all over your face to avoid looking too washed out.  And keep your hair colour as vibrant as you dare including the roots.  I find henna absolutely perfect as it highlights my pale skin and makes my green eyes look even brighter.

 

Also, keep your eyebrows and eyelashes tinted and well shaped.

 

All of these things give an over all impression that you're groomed without looking over the top.  I do similar with my hands; maintain my cuticles and moisturise my hands, but keep my nails very short as I play guitar and do a lot of typing so, they don't look manicured but they don't look neglected either!

 

It may seem like a lot of effort to go to in order to avoid wearing make up - but the time and money I save not buying primers, foundations, lipliners, lipsticks, blush, mascara, eyeliners etc...well, it must really add up.  And I'd rather have natural skin, because in the end, I think it costs me far less to buy Posie Tint, lip stain, a decent lipbalm/translucent lipstick that will maintain a hint of colour throughout the day, decent moisturiser for my face and body and some henna than to do it the other way.  I think when it comes to health and beauty, prevention is better than cure. 

 

Sometimes I think my approach to 'beauty' is as organised as it is because I'm actually lazy.  But to be honest, I'm such a hippie I just can't imagine I'd ever wear make up really except for photoshoots and stuff like that!

 

So...that's kind of a wrap for today.  I  have a little temple work to complete and then Spider will be round for the evening.  We're going for a massive chillout as he had a really good (but really busy) day yesterday...and I've had a really good (but really busy) day today too.

 

We're planning to snuggle up, watch Gatsby while we have dinner...heaven!  Also, I'm starting to feel hungry! 

 

18th August 2015 - Happy days friends! Have had a lovely day to day.  Dad's recovering well after the chemo.  It's kind of odd because the chemo has knackered him but some of his brain tumour symptoms (numbness on his left hand especially), seemed worse. But the numbness in his face is reduced.  When they did the radiotherapy and chemo intensive, they obviously did some tests on the tumour type to see if it will respond to the treatment and I've been giving him energy healing - part of my Soul Midwifery duty - which is an absolute honour...challenging for sure, but any way we get to express our love for those we love in this life is something to be treasured...for sure, I think my hippieness is rubbing off on everyone right now.  Even Spider seems supremely snuggly and mellow...but that might just be because I'm so fluffy and cute! (No disputing that eh?!).

 

Anyway, they said the intensive therapy might make all the symptoms worse and knackered him out badly at first and we'd have to wait to see how it settled in the weeks after it.  Some people in his position at his age and with his type of cancer and its location, wouldn't be able to complete a course of chemo - they might not even be able to begin a course if they were not in good health in all other ways. At first, throughout the chemo and radiotherapy daily thing, he was fine - his symptoms reduced massively and his energy was fine.  He's been making stuff out of wood (he's always making stuff!) - doing my garden and growing veggies and stuff.  Towards the end he was getting tired but in that kind of achy way you have if you've got a bad cold, except without the cold!  Now it's over a week since the chemo/radiotherapy intensive finished and the numbness did start getting worse again so they increased his steroids to try to reduce swelling around the tumour (caused by the radiotherapy); unfortunately that messed with his sleep and he felt much worse for a few days.  To the point he even wondered if he'd recover or whether he was on the home straight.  We all discuss these things openly though and I think that really helps everyone - it's where my autism comes in extremely handy because I can facilitate a practical discussion about things that other families might find more difficult.  I can be 'involved' but at the same time my brain can take a very objective view and that can be helpful for keeping perspective and making sure everyone's on the same page.

 

I have to say, as my life goes on, I find my Aspergers to be more and more of an asset! I know there are people that think it's just a 'genius gene' thing or that it's a sign of an 'old soul' incarnated - or even a higher being incarnating for a purpose.  I don't know - I know it makes me different to other people in some ways.  But the blessings that come with it far outweigh any challenges!  So I'm thanking my lucky stars all the time for my uniqueness; and really appreciating the uniqueness of everyone else.  It's like - everyone's one six billion, and it's an amazing thing that we can all be so unique and yet, have so much in common and so much to share.  It really is a beautiful thing.  So...remember...

 

YOU ARE AN EXTRAORDINARY PERSON, JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE!

 

My personal spiritual view means I view each individual as an expression of a single Source that many would call 'God'.  And no matter how flawed or imperfect, there is a connection between us all because of our common Source; and that Source is perfect; on some level we all are already perfect - and we spend our lives kind of working out ways to 'cut the crap' so we can express that perfection within us a bit more and in all kinds of ways. 

 

Anyway...back on topic - as I said in yesterday's blog, it will be a while before we know how well the chemo and radiotherapy worked but because the steroids messed up his sleep dad's felt worse for a few days.  But he got a really good night's sleep yesterday and today spent the day with my sister. Then I went round and we jammed for a while and had a laugh.  Then my honey got back from work and joined us.  I know it's probably 'eek' to some, but I'm sooooo loved up I can't help singing his praises every chance I get! He's absolutely the kindest person I've ever met.  He's honest and straightforward...and as my sister pointed out...the first long term relationship I've had where my partner was as independent, dependable, straight talking and hard working as I am.  She's right.  He really is good for me!   If I ever sat and wrote a list about my requirements for a man, Elvis/Spider wouldn't have matched the list.  But he makes me happy and he's my equal in ways that my partners before never have been.

 

I will be writing a further blog about that actually - the blog earlier this month about Covert Narcissistic Personality Disorder - I read back over it and realised that I'd not explained very well the gist of it, the red flags, what you can do about it and what you can't do about it.  Also, I have to admit that when I posted it, my comments related solely to my recent ex - but he's not the first ex I have had that would tick so many of the boxes and some of the similarities between past partners really show up.  But mostly, I want to write an article about abuse and abusers.  A Covert Narcissist can manipulate a person in ways they don't identify as abuse at all - and only looking back do you see there was any kind of systematic attempt to control or manipulate.  And there are many forms of abuse but the effects are devastating.  Again, I can thank my autism for allowing me to experience the 'recovery' (for wont of a better word), subjectively but also to intellectualise it and to draw a line under it in a way that might be harder for others.  But it's something I have studied and something that interests me.  I have first hand experience too.  And I'm happy to share what I've learned through personal experience, study and professionally.  Not just because I think the information can help others who may be experiencing problems or trying to process the fall out of problems in the past, but because of the nature of my work, I consider the energetic/karmic component to such situations.

 

In magick we consider any act of will, an act of magick.  So if someone intentionally punches you in the face to hurt you, they have done the same thing as someone who plants a hex bag on your car and hopes you'll run into trouble.  The intention is what makes these things the same.  And that's why when it comes to resolving things, as a witch and holistic teacher, I would consider that someone suffering after the trauma of an abusive relationship (whatever kind of abuse it was), if possible should seek help with the symptoms of the anxiety or depression from a medical professional - even if it's to find a good counsellor and you're averse to trying any medications even for a limited time.  But also, I'd recommend they learn and practice energy healing and meditation (Kundalini Reiki, Avalonian Alignment - particularly good for this); and if they felt it would help and would be appropriate for them, there are magickal options that I provide that can assist to resolve karmic imbalance, help you ground and protect yourself and reverse negative energies.  And all of these things combine to work on your situation in different ways; you're getting support and reassurance from different areas as well as empowering yourself with new skills and information.  I think that's important. 

 

Anyway...I seem to be whittering on!  I was just a bit disappointed when I re-read the earlier blog I wrote about CNPD because it didn't really give the information I had intended it to.  So I may give that an edit when I get down to writing an article. 

 

In the meantime - there are some great vlogs on youtube explaining the different kinds of antisocial behavioural issues people have and how to deal with them - what to do in practical terms if you find yourself a victim of them.  And for those interested in learning meditation and self healing techniques you can find information on www.mayastar.net/courses.htm - and for magickal options www.mayamagickal.net XX

 

Better get on.  I've extended the 24 Gift Offer for the Magickal Shaman Lightworker course due to the popularity!  It's a wonderful system and I highly recommend it.  If you're interested you can find the Gift Offer information at www.mayastar.net/gift.htm  

 

So...there's my work finished for the night! A little temple work to complete in the morning but I'm going to chill out, have some lemonade (on the master cleanser!), and then wake up my honey as he's got an early start this morning.

 

Happy days and love to all XXXX Kisses XXXX And thanks to those who have continued to follow my blog and social media through last year.  It was kind of a 'fallow period' for me and I spent a lot more time meditating and in prayer than usual...in fact, I would say for about six months I was actually very introverted.  I tend to be quite an introvert but not for extended periods...but I guess there was a lot going on in my personal life and it was a transitional period and I seemed to do an awful lot of reading too.  I'm sure it will all be useful for my work over the coming years.  There's never been a time I haven't loved the work I do through Mayastar and Maya Magickal - if anything, over time I've grown to understand it and love it in more ways.  And of course, my students and clients are always the most fabulous people because they are people that are taking charge of their lives...making changes...empowering themselves energetically and through study.  Really wonderful <3  Deep gratitude to everyone who has been a part of Mayastar...my friends, family, students and clients....it's always appreciated and I think everyone shares in 'good' in different ways XXXX  Happy happy happy happy days! X

 

 

17th August 2015 - I've been awful at updating my blog...so sorry to those who follow it!  Most updates get posted on the FB before anything else so if you're not already subscribed, please follow on www.annalouisemay.net

 

I've had tons of enquiries lately for magickal resolution of problems with psychic attack, suspected psychic attack - or any situation where you have been involved in an abusive relationship or have experienced a period of low energy, or negative thinking that you consider has become something like a vicious cycle.

 

Magickally speaking, these situations are identical; the source of the 'attack' or the identity of the 'attacker' doesn't need to be known or defined in order to resolve the problem using magick.  If the problem is long standing or something you feel has become complex in that one problem has drawn new problems to you and this has continued over a period until the situations such a 'mess' that you can't really work out what started it in the first place!  Well, often what starts the situation in the first place might be resolved, but negative effect of it may not have been cleared with the resolution of the original problem simply because the situation became too complex. 

 

I receive many emails from people about this and it's clear they want to do something to turn it around but feel they need to justify their position - or explain how it happened.  I would like to reassure you, you don't need to justify yourself and you don't need to work out how the situation came about.  Magickally, what I do best is solve problems by reweaving the karmic bonds as they currently stand.  If the client wants to analyse the situation independently for any personal reason, that's fine and that's up to them and something they may feel useful to them.  But it's not something that's necessary for me to do in order to solve the problem quickly and effectively. 

 

There are many solution options and they are always tailored to the individual so if you have any questions or are considering whether magick might assist you in the situation you're experiencing, please email me mayastar.net@gmail.com and I'd be happy to advise.  You can also find out more information about magickal options, how magick works and my experience personally and professionally at www.mayamagickal.net X

 

On a less work related note...things have been a little hectic!  I've been having the time of my life (cue for a song and dancing montage from the 80s!) with Spider (my now 'official' boyfriend).  I've known him for quite a while through my dad so kind of as a friend.  And there's no argument, he's packing an illegal amount of gorgeousness! 

 

I know it may sound just a little insane...if you're anyone who isn't a Pre-Raphaelite Princess living a defiantly bohemian lifestyle!...but, it's true.  Elvis lives in my street.  And I'm dating him.  Not only that, but he thinks I'm lovely.  Even when I've just woken up.  Even when it's pushing 30 degrees outside and I'm wilting in humidity.  Even if I'm having a totally hormonal bitch fit.  Even when I'm struggling to find my key while I sing Lana Del Rey songs with my autoharp.  He also enjoys the whole fairyland experience...even if I'm playing Patience & Prudence on a perpetual loop (though I suppose that's kinda #TateandViolet #AHS romantic really!).

 

Yes.  He really is fabulous.  We're currently at war however...seeing who can graffiti the other one while they're asleep. But he's upped the ante because now it's escalated to notes hidden in pockets and waking up to find your BF wrote I LOVE YOU all over your patio in chalk while you slept.  Yep.  We're sickly sweet.  We're worse than teenagers when it comes to being loved up! 

 

We're also both very practical so that we get to make the most of the time we have...whatever work I have I schedule it.  He is self employed so we work our schedules in such a ways that any free time we have matches up.  Though I'm just as likely to bump into him round my dad's.  Dad's totally knackered at the moment from either the chemo or the radiotherapy but we're all close and practical and between family and friends, we're staying a step ahead.  It is strange...life with a 'lifer' - my sister and I even said, it's going to be weird when dad dies because it could be months or even years off depending how he recovers from the aggressive chemo/radiotherapy course he completed.  So whenever it does happen, we were kind of joking saying that, even if it's 18 months from now, we'll still be standing about saying "I know he had a terminal brain tumour and all, but you just don't expect it!".  I suppose that's the odd thing about death.  We all know we are going to and most people don't want to think about it.  Being a lifer or living with a lifer forces you to...and when people are able to talk openly about it and how it may play out and how they feel about it and stuff, it makes a natural process feel all the more natural.

 

Anyway, dad's mood continues to be buoyant and he doesn't actually feel ill at all - just really weak as if he was coming down with something or had just come out of an anaesthetic.  The Violet Flame Energy and Usui Reiki energy seem to suit him best and over the course of a day he can get up and get about a bit.  Just carefully!  But we need to wait a while to see how things settle over the next few weeks.  Apart from the weakness, his symptoms of the tumour itself have either reduced or stayed the same rather than got worse and they were getting worse quite quickly before the intensive chemo.  So the chemo/radiotherapy has definitely done some good - either it's slowed the tumour but it's possible that once the swelling around the area dies down, it may have shrunk it and as his energy returns over the next few weeks we'll have a better idea of how successful it was.  And whether he wants to continue with that kind of treatment etc.  There's no getting away from it with things like cancer...there has to be a lot of discussion about things that other people might find distasteful or morbid.  But it's a good thing in ways that people who haven't experienced it probably won't understand.  People really pull together.  And people are really amazing when it comes down to it! XX

 

I know it sounds really hippie, but people really love each other and I think people really come into their own whenever and wherever they have the opportunity to express that love. XX

 

Note: Sorry no photoshoots lately...many planned for later in the year but, some nice selfies and pix from my moby dotted about to make this blog look prettier! XXX

 

Much love to <3 M

 

 

9th August 2015 - I found a very interesting vlog on youtube yesterday and thought I may share with you my impressions, a few updates and also the link to the article for anyone who considers they may be involved with someone who shows 'red flags' that they can see are 'amiss' but can't really get a handle on how significant they are.

 

Youtube link: Youtube Article About Covert Narcissism - Fantastic


My ex exhibited some odd behaviours. I have studied to some extent and had concluded (to myself but also had discussed it with him) that he may have borderline personality disorder or some kind of narcissistic personality disorder.


It showed more if he went through periods of self medicating or using substances ('socially'), his reaction to almost any stimulation was anger. He often described it himself as resentment. But more often tried to justify it as stubbornness. In actual fact, once he moved in with me, these episodes seemed childish. He sought constant external validation voraciously. And the anxiety would build when he didn't receive it. (Unfortunately as an ‪Aspergirl‬ this kind of ego pandering didn't ever feature! )


This would manifest as sulking rather than outward aggression. I am ‪aspergers‬ (high functioning ‪autism‬) and very interested in human ‪#‎psychology‬ because mine is atypical. I do have ‪empathy‬. But I experience it in an intellectualised way. Bullying me would be hard because external validation or judgement tends to be off my radar!


At times I wondered if his issue was an ‪#‎autistic‬ spectrum disorder. I encouraged him to seek advice of a professional because we can learn to navigate our minds when we understand them and seeking a doctor's advice doesn't mean saying 'something is up with my brain! I need the brain fixing pills!'


I don't know if he got help. He had explosions of rage (not targeted at others and seemingly irrational...but years apart. It was easy to assume ‪drug abuse‬ triggered them...till I lived with him!).


There was no physical ‪violence‬; more like a grown man having a ‪tantrum‬ - like an ‪anxiety attack‬ that didn't have a cause he could identify but really created a problem. Blaming this and that and him and her and everything else. ‪‎Paranoid‬ thinking. And occasionally what I would define as immature and covert attempts to bully or control. I was too oblivious to it to have realised how serious it was until later.


He admitted to lying and deception (of myself and his family) but I have no idea of the extent of it or how long it had gone on. I am not convinced pathological lying was his problem but that lying became necessary to him due to his psychology at times.


back now I realise he was a very controlling person. Very ‪low self esteem‬. Very ‪#‎arrogant‬. Very '‪stubborn‬'. Probably above average intelligence...but a definite lack of self awareness and accountability in his mind which betrayed his lack of emotional intelligence.


After he left he claimed he was getting professional help for managing his anger. But his family told a different story so whether he really did seek help, I couldn't even guess.


I study widely and various techniques for my own understanding of my aspergers (a type of autism). I have been able, over time, not only to accept my autism but to celebrate it! And to find that in my work (teaching online energy healing courses predominantly), it is useful to be able to adopt a more rational view at times. It's helpful for me and my students/clients because people can talk openly with me without fearing judgement or worrying they are burdening me in any personal sense.


In fact, in some situations in my personal life my autism has proved an asset!
On reflexion I would say that to my ex, it was as if I didn't demonstrate enough adulation to make him feel ok about himself and gradually he began to resent my 'emotional independence'.


Ultimately such a mismatch could have resulted in a seriously abusive relationship (if neither of us had been self aware and had accepted the imbalance as 'the norm'). Perhaps less so for me in some ways, but more devastating for me in ways he wouldn't have been able to relate to.
Even so, I hope he will learn about himself and find a way to let go of his bitterness.


I can't claim to forgive like a ‪neutotypical‬ does - my process of ‪forgiveness‬ is intellectualised to an extent. But it still brought me ‪#‎peace‬ and opened my life to new possibilities and hope. It meant I could move on and learn from the experience. I am grateful for that. I hope he can too and that he finds the right kind of help to get a handle on himself.


For my own part I find energy healing (‪Reiki‬ in particular), regular exercise, playing music, singing, and daily ‪meditation‬ help me to maintain a balance. Spending a lot of time with my boyfriend - they call him ‪‎Elvis‬ (I call him Spider) and he lives two doors down...he's fabulous and I am sure I will blog copiously a about him this year! He really is a genuinely kind man...also practical, an entrepreneur, up for a giggle and with a ‪#‎bohemian‬ lifestyle that rivals my own! Plus he loves me to bits and I love him to pieces so it's all good...Elvis and a ‪PreRaphaelite‬ ‪‎fairy‬ ‪‎princess‬! Who would have thought it!
Also he will be helping with some of my projects later in the year so expect to find him tagged all over my networks!


Much love xxx Maya

PS. This is a great vlog. I am sure we all know people who fall into this category and forewarned is forearmed

20 Signs You Are With A "Covert" Narcissist
From a youtube comment regarding an ex : "I saw none of the grandiosity and excitement reported in all other

Youtube link: Youtube Article About Covert Narcissism - Fantastic